No Time For Yourself?

If you have no time for yourself then you are the one who has to make it. You have to schedule it in to your diary for yourself. If you don't take responsibility for making time for yourself then no one else will. Question is why don't you have time? Because you're busy giving it to everyone and everything else or you do have it you just don't see it.

Remember you can't be the best person or give the most is you don't take care and take time out for yourself. Now some people think they have no time because all they can see is all the time that is taken up so in these causes perception may be the problem. Stop for a minute, are there times you're on your own, are there some times in your day when you can utilize it for yourself yet because you're so busy thinking and worrying and stressing over all the time that is going to be used up you can't even see it.

And how much time on your own do you really need or actually want? I don't think way too much. 1 hour a day I think can top it for then if you had all the time for yourself and alone you'd be wishing to do some things for and with other people as we all gain fulfillment from giving and sharing to others. But if you feel you have no time maybe you are giving too much of it away and thus won't be able to forever for to do this you need to look after yourself and be at your best.

I remember I had a lady I worked with once who said she worked 24/7 literally she worked every minute of every day even while she was sleeping she said she would sometimes wake at 3am and think about work so she also worked while she was sleeping. She worried a lot about her work literally constantly that she took her work everywhere - she couldn't switch off once she left the office hence she took her work into every other part of her life. I then asked her what she did on Sundays, she said she goes for a long walk with her husband mid morning then they come back for a late lunch and sit on the couch with a nice glass of wine and watch a DVD. So I said ok you work 6 days a week then and she said no I work 7.

So you can see if you are not able to switch off from your work and career it's takes over into every other part of your life and then all you think you do do is work even when you don't. So it's important that you have a clear perception on reality and see when you do have time for yourself. This will often mean dealing with your inability to switch work off to focus on what you're actually doing or not doing at the time and this comes down to asking yourself why can't you switch off, what is bothering you. Once you work this out can you then do something about that issue so as it doesn't bother you any more.

To get more time for yourself you might be one who needs to start saying no. This takes confidence and fears usually underlie that you fear someone might not like you if you say no to them but ensure you're saying yes and no to the right people at the right times. When you do this you start to take responsibility for your life and then you become more confident, you feel more in control, are more balanced and thus happier and thus you no longer need to complain about having no time for yourself.

3 Tips on getting more time for yourself are:

• Schedule it into your diary and make it a priority
• Say no when you should and need to
• Appreciate then time when you do have it, relax and enjoy even if it's 5mins pay attention to that 5mins and it will feel much longer than it usually does!

For more information contact Jacqueline Pigdon T: +61 (0) 404 362 379 E: jacqueline@jinalife.com